If you care for an elderly parent, spouse, friend or other loved one, you know that physical and mental decline can affect every aspect of their life, including their personal hygiene. Trouble moving, memory loss and changes in their vision and sense of smell can all stop seniors from taking care of their personal hygiene properly. Or, they may be aware of it, but feel too embarrassed to ask for help.
Elderly hygiene issues are a cause for concern. Though it can be hard for you to provide and even harder for seniors to accept, hygiene help is an invaluable part of caregiving. Don’t be discouraged: It’s possible for you to help your loved one stay clean and healthy while also allowing them to maintain their dignity and as much independence as possible.
How to Help Your Loved One Deal with Elderly Hygiene Issues
Keep these tips in mind when working through elderly hygiene issues with a loved one:
Talk about it.
This will likely be a hard discussion for both of you, but it’s too important to avoid. Let them know you’re coming from a place of love: You want to help them look and feel their best and keep them safe from health problems like skin or urinary tract infections. Don’t be unkind or focus on what they can’t do. Focus on what they need and what you can do to help them with that.
Create a routine.
A personal hygiene routine doesn’t just keep your loved one clean and comfortable – it gives their days more structure, too. If there’s a certain time of day or situation in which they’re in their best mood or most clear-minded, plan to help them with washing and grooming then, if possible.
Don’t insist on more bathing than is necessary.
You may be wondering, “How often should an elderly person bathe?” Seniors who aren’t very mobile may not need to take a shower every day. Showering a few times a week, with sponge baths in between, may be enough.
Buy hygiene aids.
There are many devices that are designed to solve elderly hygiene issues by making it easier for a person to take care of their grooming. Shower chairs, no-rinse bathing wipes and long-handled shower brushes, razors and toenail clippers can all make taking care of personal hygiene safer and easier.
Encourage (a safe level of) independence.
Even small things like combing their own hair or putting on their own deodorant can help seniors maintain a sense of control over their lives. Dental hygiene is important, and tasks like brushing and flossing their teeth may be easier for seniors to keep doing on their own than other types of grooming.
Everyone has good days and bad days, including your loved one. It’s OK to skip a shower occasionally. Give them a sponge bath and some dry shampoo and try doing the real thing again when they’re in a better state of mind.
How to Safely Bathe an Elderly Person
Make sure the bathroom is safe.
Create a comfortable environment.
Explain every move.
Bring in a pro.
Helping elderly loved ones maintain their personal hygiene is one of the most difficult parts of being a caregiver. But the experience can be made better if approached with thoughtfulness, determination and love for the person you’re caring for – and for yourself. Remember, be kind to yourself. You’re doing the best you can. Your loved one is lucky to have someone like you, who loves them so much. Don’t forget that.